A Personal Story
by JACQUI JAMES
Size: 5.5” X 8.5”
Pages: 40 pages
IMAGINE a life partner, a family member or a close friend of yours is dying. How might she or he be feeling? Facing death, being in pain maybe. What are her or his intimate needs and wishes? What happiness to us when staying with a dying person? How can we deal with the sorrow, the confusing thoughts and the trying situation? How should we communicate with her or him and with the family members and friends?
When a beloved person is dying we are touched to our deepest core. Difficult, painful emotions may rush up, setting in our heart. Dying and dearth becomes a great challenger, breaking into our lives which we try so hard to keep smooth and under control.
In this essay Jacqui James, an experienced meditator and meditation teacher, recounts the time she spent with her dying mother. It is enlightening to see how her mindfulness and openness of the heart guide her through the process in herself, the process of her mother dying and of the group around the deathbed. Her family decides at one point to engage the help of a hospice nurse. Hospice workers are people specially trained in accompanying and accommodating the dying. They often have great sensitivity and practical skills in relating with and caring for terminally ill people, a knowledge that has been lost in a world alienated from the experience of death.